I think that if this is a problem now, don't get married - yet. The fact that you think ';he eats like a pig'; is a red flag. Do you have a problem with who he is too? His weight, his physical appearance?
If that's not your problem then you need to consider him as a whole package. If he's a big person, highly active, someone who does very physical work, then he's going to need more food than you do, if you are not the same size, and doing the same level of activity.If you are petite, doing little in the way of physically demanding work, then you are going to eat less. After all while he eats more, you probably spend more on cosmetics, lotions and potions than he does.
If you are so concerned about everything being exactly equal then marriage isn't going to work for you. If your worried about being used, don't get married. If you are worried that the money thing isn't exactly equal, wait.
In a real and good marriage there are going to be times when you give more than you get, and others where you will be getting more than you give. That is the nature of love. To be there for the other person, and for them to be there for you, even when its not exactly an equal giving at all times. If you can't handle that, then maybe you aren't ready to be married yet?My fiance eats like a pig and we split the food bill. I don't really think it's fair. What do you think?
Just tell him that you don't feel like you should be paying for half of the food when you're not eating half of it.
You guys could also try each buying your own groceries separately, then maybe he'd really see how much it's been costing you to pay for his food habit.
I've gone through this before and I just stop going to the grocery store altogether so the bf is forced to go buy food or he'll starve. Eventually they will get the hint.
Sounds like he's eating you out of house and home, heres one solution I have that I came up with, don't laugh, it may work.
Whenever you shop for groceries, buy some things that you like, maybe a favorite cereal, cookies, chips,, you can take some to your job and leave them there, or hide some stuff around your house, so when you finally do want a snack to yourself, you will have it when he's not around.
Or spend less, when shopping, he will eventually get the hint when less is bought, then just say '; I can't keep up with the food expenses, this is all I can afford';.
Okay you said 'fiance' -- so you are going to be married - husband and wife. This means you become 'one'. Joint bank acounts, joint good times, joint bad times and so on. It's great that you are already living together so why not learn to live as 'one' -- unity is strength. Cheers!
If you are getting annoyed over something so simple as that do you really think you are ready for marriage? I think all you would do is destroy your relationship over minor things. If you are going to be married will you split everything evenly or what?
I agree-if this is a problem now, it will be a HUGE problem down the road. Him eating like a pig and you being stingy with your $$$!
lol, tell him you're only paying for what you eat and he will have to pay up or eat less.
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